When Home Just Isn’t Home Anymore

So…you’ve lived apart from your family for a few months, even an entire school year. And now, you’re back to their house or your hometown for a little bit. You’re happy, but coming “home” has somehow become different.

I’ve already experienced this feeling before moving away to university, after having done some traveling without my family. But it wasn’t until I lived in residence in university and visited my home for the holidays that I noticed how out of place I felt at home.

When you first see your family and friends, it seems like everything is the same. Same house, same car, same dog, same city. But they’ve really changed. See, the funny thing is, other people aren’t static. They grow up, get new hobbies or jobs, new friends or partners, and even if you know about all of that before you reunite, you’ll still have to get used to how those things affect your loved one’s daily lives.

But, the hardest part of coming home is being faced with how you’ve changed. After all, you’ve been away and learned some valuable lessons on your own. From friendships to things you learned in university courses, you’re not the same person you left home as. I know I came back from my first semester of university with new friends, a realization of how hard university can be, and with more independence. I’d even become a bit more extroverted, which is no small feat for me.

So, is there anything you can do about coming home and facing change or being changed?

To be honest, you can’t do much but to accept the changes and adapt to your new life. You’ll never be able to change the paths of others in your life, so you’ll either have to accept them as they are or set them loose. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of a friend in your life. It might be tough, but you’ll survive.

As for personal change, you’ll have to assess whether it’s good or bad, and then embrace what will allow you to become the best version of yourself. Take some time to have a heart to heart with yourself, and it’ll help you grow as a person. I hope that what you discover allows you to reach your goals and contribute to the world around you.

Just remember, change is a healthy part of life. You won’t be able to avoid it, but you can change how you react to it. So, when you feel out of sorts going home the next school break, go out and embrace the weirdness of change!

-Mel.

Merry Christmas!

I know I’m not exactly posting on Christmas, but I’m taking the weekend to enjoy the time with my family. After all, I only get to see them about every four months when I’m in school!

I hope that your holidays have started off well and that you guys are taking the time to relax from work, school, or whatever things life has sent your way. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world, and hopefully, you’re spending the holidays with the most important people in your life.

I won’t be posting again until the New Year, so I also wanted to say an early Happy New Year as well. As well, just wanted to say sorry for not posting earlier in December, exams and the end of semester caught up to me so I didn’t have time to write.

Happy holidays everyone, take advantage of every free moment of them!

-Mel.

Hal-con 2016

As some of you may know, I’m a giant nerd. Naturally, that meant I *had* to go to the Halifax Comic Con. And so I bought myself a weekend pass, and made plans to have some fun!

The following are observations from the whole weekend:

  1. They had a rest area with inflated seats and let me tell you, that was heaven after being at con all day.
  2. Even though it wasn’t the biggest star lineup for panels, all the panels I went to were awesome.
  3. Nobody yelled at me for standing near the wall for two seconds to figure out where I was going. (Calgary Expo, I’m looking at you…)
  4. Some of the vendor art was absolutely beautiful, and I loved all the steampunk style jewelry for sale.
  5. Everyone was so friendly, from panelists to people standing in line. Two girls my age even started chatting with me and offered me Timbits while I was in line for a panel.
  6. My favorite cosplay was two (or three?) guys that had made Boba Fett cosplays including the armor. Absolutely amazing.
  7. The location was great since it’s in the heart of downtown Halifax and close to the boardwalk. So, it’s really convenient to go to lunch or do touristy things when the con gets tiring.

Overall, Hal-con was worth the weekend trip. I probably won’t be doing it next year, but I will definitely go back!

Also, huge shout outs to my friend from university who convinced me to go, my roommate who now lives in Halifax for getting me unlost, and one of my Banff friends who spent a lot of time with me the entire weekend.

If you guys have any questions about Hal-con, leave them below!

-Mel.

Lest We Forget

I had originally planned to post about my experience with Hal-con last weekend, however, I owe this great man for upholding my country’s freedom, and so it can wait.

The man above is my great grandpa, who fought in World War Two for the Canadian Navy doing supply runs in the North Atlantic. He is a hero, and one of my role models. Unfortunately, he passed away almost ten years ago, but he lives on in my memories.

Like many WW2 heroes, he was more than just a member of the Navy. He gave the best back massages, guaranteed to put my younger self to sleep, even though his hands were covered from calluses from years of hard work. He teased me about being shy to practice my French whenever I visited as well. His house was always a safe place, and you would leave stuffed with food, and hopefully a bit of lefsa. He and my great grandma were a strong couple, and I can remember them dancing together at one family gathering, looking so happy together.

So, every November 11th, I thank him for his service, and for the time I got to spend with him. His memory reminds me to live life in a way that embodies the positive qualities of life, from courage and perseverance, to love and giving back.

Lest we forget those that have fought for Canada and those who still fight.

-Mel.

Happy Halloween!

Hope all of you are having a spook-tacular day!

I just wanted to make a brief thank you post for going through the 30 Day School/University Challenge with me. It was a lot of fun, and it encouraged me to get studying! Special thanks to new followers Miguel Olmedo Morell, College Mate, The Historical Diaries, havau22, and Dr P M Yeah, MBA, JD, PhD.

I’ll be going back to regular posting now, which is every second Friday. It’s definitely less frequent but I need a bit of a breather with the amount of essays and exams coming up the next two months!

And, just since it’s Halloween, please enjoy the following:

2009-10-30-pun-kins

-Mel.

P.S. Source for pun here, in case you want to use it on your friends.

Top 3 Tips For School

Here are my top three tips for post-secondary or university!

  1. Talk to your profs: As scary as going to your prof’s office hours *alone* may seem, it’ll be totally worth it. Getting to know them is really useful for references later, and getting help on content first hand is incredibly helpful. Since I’m at a small university, this is a lot easier since my profs remember me anyways, but I still have to put in the effort to talk to them.
  2. Learn how to study and write: University is a lot harder if you don’t know what types of study methods work for you. Writing is incredibly important for academic writing, so you’ll need to pick up that skill fast. Check out your campus for resources that can help you, for example, my university has a writing center to help students.
  3. Get involved: You’ll probably hear this so many times it hurts, but join a few clubs and societies. You don’t have to go to every meeting, but even being informed by being on an email list doesn’t hurt. I personally have joined a few societies, and the extra lectures and events they facilitate have been pretty cool and enlightening!

Anyone else have a tip for those in university? Leave them down below!

-Mel.

The Best Thing About University

In my opinion, the best thing about university is freedom.

Suddenly after high school, you’re most likely living in a new place without the support systems like your parents or high school friends that you’re used to. And it’s really scary, that all of life suddenly looks a lot like a giant question mark.

That’s a good thing, because now you have the freedom to make your life what you want and need it to be.

You have the freedom to learn about anything and everything you want to. You can take whatever courses you want, and take what you need to learn about life out of them. You have the freedom to join whatever activities on campus that look attractive, and make new friends with whoever you want. You have the freedom to live on your own, make your own schedule, and take care of yourself.

All those options might look scary, but they’re all important choices you need to make yourself. In doing just that, you’ll learn a lot of lessons about yourself and the world, and from there you can decide where you want to go in life.

So, the freedom in university, it’s a good thing. It allows you to grow in ways you can’t even imagine yet, and I’m sure you’ll be grateful for the roller coaster of an adventure it’ll be.

What do guys think is the best part of university? Leave a comment below!

-Mel.

 

Your To Do List

So, since today is a Friday, here is my to do list for the weekend:

  • Rewrite my lecture notes for the week
  • Work on my history essay
  • Go and work at the Coady library on Sunday
  • Work on Spanish exercises
  • Do research for other papers
  • Hang out with friends
  • Go grocery shopping 

What do you guys have to do this weekend? Leave a comment down below!

-Mel.

Favourite Quote

This semester, this has been my favorite quote so far:

Believe you can and you’re halfway there. -Theodore Roosevelt

It’s written on my quote wall in my room, and it’s just a nice little reminder to look at when I’m studying.

I definitely do have bad days in university, and this quote reminds me to have a little faith and I’ll get where I’m going. Especially during midterm, essay, or exam season, it’s a nice reminder that you just need a bit of confidence to achieve your goals.

What are your favourite quotes this semester? Leave it down below in the comments, and I might add it to my quote wall!

-Mel.