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Day 24: Something That Makes You Feel Better

There are a lot of things that make me feel better when I’m down, so I figured I’d share a bunch of them with you today.

So, here are some of the things I do to take care of myself on an off day:

  • Listen to music: I find listening to music helps me get out of my head, so I’ve made a few Spotify playlists that I listen to when I need a bit of a boost.
  • Eat something: Sometimes the reason why I’m in a bad mood is I haven’t eaten, so I always find it helpful to eat something. It doesn’t always have to be healthy food, since sometimes you just want to eat a bunch of pizza.
  • Taking a shower or bath: Taking a long soak or having a really long hot shower always helps me. It’s soothing, and the heat helps you relax and release tension.
  • Talking to friends/family: I’m lucky to have an awesome group of friends and family, who I can reach out to when life’s a bit rough.
  • Cleaning: As weird as it sounds, doing the dishes or cleaning can really help. It allows you to take out some frustration on the dirtiest dishes, but also makes your space a relaxing environment.
  • Watch your favourite movie or TV show: I like putting on shows or movies that I’ve seen a lot since they’re comforting, or choosing a sillier show like Bob’s Burgers or Brooklyn 99 to cheer me up.
  • Coloring: Yes, I’m an adult that likes colouring books. It’s really soothing to just concentrate on it, and you can get some pretty cool colouring books that are for particular shows or have swear words in them.
  • Playing games on my phone: I’ve recently added some games to my phone, which not only cure boredom, but also help me relax. I highly recommend Monument Valley, it’s got a soothing soundtrack and requires a lot of concentration.

What are some of the things that make you feel better on a bad day? Let me know in the comments!

-Mel.

Day 23: Your Definition of Love

Love, to me at least, is a concept that doesn’t have one particular definition, since there are many types of love and many qualities of (good) love.

However, if I had to, I would define love as an emotional and/or physical bond between individuals. This includes bonds between family, friends, and significant others.

I believe that love has certain qualities that distinguishes it from other things. Love brings people together in the best and worst of times in life, but it also has the power to cause great harm. If you can truly expect someone to in your life no matter what, then that embodies an element of love.

Love also involves elements of respect and trust for me. Those who love you should respect your opinions and what you do with your life, but in a way that is constructive to make you a better person. They should also be loyal, and not willing to disclose all your secrets or cheat on you on a whim.

Anyways, I could write an essay about what love is and is not, so I’ll stop here before I start philosophizing all day. If you’d like to see more of my thoughts about love, you can always check out my writing posts under the love category.

Do you agree with my definition of love? Leave me a comment below with your thoughts!

-Mel.

 

Day 15: Your Zodiac Sign

My zodiac sign is Cancer, since my birthday is at the end of June. I’d say I match the stereotypical descriptions and traits of my zodiac sign very closely.

Cancers are usually said to be very home and family oriented, which is accurate for me. I care deeply about my family and friends, and I’m always looking out for their wellbeing. I tend to be a very maternal person as well, and I’m definitely looking forward to the day when I own my own house and have a family.

Another stereotypical Cancer trait is that they’re emotional and very sensitive. I definitely am both, and I’m very empathetic as well. That being said, often this trait is presented as a negative thing. While I believe that it can hinder progress sometimes, being able to understand and express emotions can give you a richer understanding of the world.

Career wise, Cancers are said to be strong-willed and good with money. I’m definitely rather stubborn on some issues, but I don’t think I’m the best with money that I could be. However, I do have a lot of the intuition and creativity that Cancers typically have, which has definitely helped me to a degree with work.

When it comes to love, the main things Cancers worry about are trust and loyalty. Both do matter a lot to me, since I will only consider dating someone if I know their intentions are good and that they’re trustworthy. I’m also a stereotypical Cancer romance wise due to the fact that I’m very traditional in what I expect from a partner or a date.

So, if you ever need an example of a stereotypical Cancer woman, look no further than this blog. However, while I enjoy horoscopes and zodiac signs, I don’t let them dictate my life choices, which I encourage you guys to do as well.

What are your zodiac signs, and are you anything like them? Let me know down below!

-Mel.

 

Goodbye to the Sunshine Dog

Jypsie, Jyps, Tipsy, Sexy, Houdini, Dummkopf, you were known by many names.

You always knew where the best sun patch was inside and outside. You’d always lie on the picnic table, napping for hours under the sun and keeping an eye on the kitchen. I’m sure at some point you must have been raised by a cat, since you were a very strange dog.

Of course, you also got into a fair amount of trouble. From digging holes to escaping the yard so many times, we had to keep it shut with a belt. It’s amazing that you managed to teach our old dog Jerzy your tricks as well, you two were a ridiculous duo when you combined your talents.

You were a good hunter too, fitting for a family of hunters. You were oh so proud to come into the house one day smacking on the feathers of the bird you’d just caught. We’ll miss our bird and mouse hunter.

You also never understood the concept of personal space. It didn’t matter if the three of us girls were on the couch, you’d find some room to squish your fluffy butt into. Sharing the back seat with you on car rides meant at some point, you would have a dog on your lap that demanded attention.

You got me through some rough times, either by spending a few hours cuddled close or by sharing your infectious good energy. Nobody could say no to your goofy grin greeting everyone that stepped through the door.

Saying goodbye to you was really hard, but I’m glad that you waited until I was home, so I was there to sneak in a few last pets.

I hope you are at peace, running around with Jerzy and getting spoiled to no end in heaven.

Love you always,

Mel.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to write a quick post since it’s Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend. I hope that all of you take advantage of the time off to relax and have some fun with your family and friends. As well, make sure to get your fill on all the best foods that Thanksgiving offers. I’m talking cranberries, pie, mashed potatoes, turkey buns, sweet potatoes…the whole nine yards.

For those of you that are unable to visit home for the holidays like me, try and make the best of the long weekend. If you need advice for surviving the weekend, I just wrote a piece about Thanksgiving away from home for my university’s newspaper, which you can find here.

I also hope all of you are enjoying the beginning of fall as well, and are taking advantage of the awesome seasonal activities. I know I’ve already restrained myself from buying a lot of mini pumpkins to decorate my dorm room…

If you guys have any cool things you’ve got planned for the fall or Thanksgiving, let me know about them below so I get some inspiration for what to do on my weekends!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone, and have a lovely weekend!

-Mel.

How To Deal With Being Homesick

As I’m writing this tonight, I’m feeling the usual bout of homesickness that comes with being across the country from my family.

So, I decided to write down a list of things that’ll make you feel less homesick for the people out there going through it. Here goes…

  1. Talk to your family. As simple as it sounds, just chatting with them and catching up helps, since you feel like you’re almost home in a way. Plus they might send you cute hug stickers.
  2. Hang out with your friends on campus, it takes your mind off home. Plus, I have some friends who also get pretty homesick so we support each other.
  3. Go for a walk. Get some coffee, wander around town, walk somewhere as long as you get fresh air. It’ll clear your head.
  4. Get some comfort food. If there’s one food that always reminds you of home or makes you feel better, treat yourself.
  5. Watch your favorite movie or TV show. It also takes your mind off being homesick, and bonus if it makes you laugh. Plus with comfort food, it makes a good night.
  6. If you have a special object from home, grab it. I personally keep a bunch of cards that I’ve gotten from family and I reread them when I’m down.
  7. Go do something! Find a special lecture, event, go to the pub, something that’ll get you out of your room. Again, it keeps your mind from only focusing on home.
  8. Have a dance party! Blast your favourite tunes for a while to cheer you up.
  9. Get creative. Doodle, colour, play music, write, whatever your thing is. Personally, I like combining this with blasting my music.
  10. Do your schoolwork. As weird as it sounds, I’ve sometimes found immersing myself in a project or paper helps.
  11. If all else fails, let yourself feel your emotions, even if it involves crying. It helps release all your feelings, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

I hope these suggestions help any of my readers out there experiencing homesickness, and that you get back to feeling fantastic like the great people you are.

-Mel.

 

When Home Just Isn’t Home Anymore

So…you’ve lived apart from your family for a few months, even an entire school year. And now, you’re back to their house or your hometown for a little bit. You’re happy, but coming “home” has somehow become different.

I’ve already experienced this feeling before moving away to university, after having done some traveling without my family. But it wasn’t until I lived in residence in university and visited my home for the holidays that I noticed how out of place I felt at home.

When you first see your family and friends, it seems like everything is the same. Same house, same car, same dog, same city. But they’ve really changed. See, the funny thing is, other people aren’t static. They grow up, get new hobbies or jobs, new friends or partners, and even if you know about all of that before you reunite, you’ll still have to get used to how those things affect your loved one’s daily lives.

But, the hardest part of coming home is being faced with how you’ve changed. After all, you’ve been away and learned some valuable lessons on your own. From friendships to things you learned in university courses, you’re not the same person you left home as. I know I came back from my first semester of university with new friends, a realization of how hard university can be, and with more independence. I’d even become a bit more extroverted, which is no small feat for me.

So, is there anything you can do about coming home and facing change or being changed?

To be honest, you can’t do much but to accept the changes and adapt to your new life. You’ll never be able to change the paths of others in your life, so you’ll either have to accept them as they are or set them loose. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of a friend in your life. It might be tough, but you’ll survive.

As for personal change, you’ll have to assess whether it’s good or bad, and then embrace what will allow you to become the best version of yourself. Take some time to have a heart to heart with yourself, and it’ll help you grow as a person. I hope that what you discover allows you to reach your goals and contribute to the world around you.

Just remember, change is a healthy part of life. You won’t be able to avoid it, but you can change how you react to it. So, when you feel out of sorts going home the next school break, go out and embrace the weirdness of change!

-Mel.

Merry Christmas!

I know I’m not exactly posting on Christmas, but I’m taking the weekend to enjoy the time with my family. After all, I only get to see them about every four months when I’m in school!

I hope that your holidays have started off well and that you guys are taking the time to relax from work, school, or whatever things life has sent your way. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world, and hopefully, you’re spending the holidays with the most important people in your life.

I won’t be posting again until the New Year, so I also wanted to say an early Happy New Year as well. As well, just wanted to say sorry for not posting earlier in December, exams and the end of semester caught up to me so I didn’t have time to write.

Happy holidays everyone, take advantage of every free moment of them!

-Mel.

Lest We Forget

I had originally planned to post about my experience with Hal-con last weekend, however, I owe this great man for upholding my country’s freedom, and so it can wait.

The man above is my great grandpa, who fought in World War Two for the Canadian Navy doing supply runs in the North Atlantic. He is a hero, and one of my role models. Unfortunately, he passed away almost ten years ago, but he lives on in my memories.

Like many WW2 heroes, he was more than just a member of the Navy. He gave the best back massages, guaranteed to put my younger self to sleep, even though his hands were covered from calluses from years of hard work. He teased me about being shy to practice my French whenever I visited as well. His house was always a safe place, and you would leave stuffed with food, and hopefully a bit of lefsa. He and my great grandma were a strong couple, and I can remember them dancing together at one family gathering, looking so happy together.

So, every November 11th, I thank him for his service, and for the time I got to spend with him. His memory reminds me to live life in a way that embodies the positive qualities of life, from courage and perseverance, to love and giving back.

Lest we forget those that have fought for Canada and those who still fight.

-Mel.

What Motivates You

I couldn’t really pinpoint one thing, so here’s a list of things that motivate me to do well in school:

  1. My family
  2. My friends
  3. My dream job (to be a diplomat)
  4. To learn new and interesting things
  5. Coffee
  6. Having the chance to get scholarships for school
  7. The chance to go digging through old documents

What motivates you to do well in school? Leave a comment down below!

-Mel.