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Happy Thanksgiving!

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to write a quick post since it’s Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend. I hope that all of you take advantage of the time off to relax and have some fun with your family and friends. As well, make sure to get your fill on all the best foods that Thanksgiving offers. I’m talking cranberries, pie, mashed potatoes, turkey buns, sweet potatoes…the whole nine yards.

For those of you that are unable to visit home for the holidays like me, try and make the best of the long weekend. If you need advice for surviving the weekend, I just wrote a piece about Thanksgiving away from home for my university’s newspaper, which you can find here.

I also hope all of you are enjoying the beginning of fall as well, and are taking advantage of the awesome seasonal activities. I know I’ve already restrained myself from buying a lot of mini pumpkins to decorate my dorm room…

If you guys have any cool things you’ve got planned for the fall or Thanksgiving, let me know about them below so I get some inspiration for what to do on my weekends!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone, and have a lovely weekend!

-Mel.

How To Deal With Being Homesick

As I’m writing this tonight, I’m feeling the usual bout of homesickness that comes with being across the country from my family.

So, I decided to write down a list of things that’ll make you feel less homesick for the people out there going through it. Here goes…

  1. Talk to your family. As simple as it sounds, just chatting with them and catching up helps, since you feel like you’re almost home in a way. Plus they might send you cute hug stickers.
  2. Hang out with your friends on campus, it takes your mind off home. Plus, I have some friends who also get pretty homesick so we support each other.
  3. Go for a walk. Get some coffee, wander around town, walk somewhere as long as you get fresh air. It’ll clear your head.
  4. Get some comfort food. If there’s one food that always reminds you of home or makes you feel better, treat yourself.
  5. Watch your favorite movie or TV show. It also takes your mind off being homesick, and bonus if it makes you laugh. Plus with comfort food, it makes a good night.
  6. If you have a special object from home, grab it. I personally keep a bunch of cards that I’ve gotten from family and I reread them when I’m down.
  7. Go do something! Find a special lecture, event, go to the pub, something that’ll get you out of your room. Again, it keeps your mind from only focusing on home.
  8. Have a dance party! Blast your favourite tunes for a while to cheer you up.
  9. Get creative. Doodle, colour, play music, write, whatever your thing is. Personally, I like combining this with blasting my music.
  10. Do your schoolwork. As weird as it sounds, I’ve sometimes found immersing myself in a project or paper helps.
  11. If all else fails, let yourself feel your emotions, even if it involves crying. It helps release all your feelings, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

I hope these suggestions help any of my readers out there experiencing homesickness, and that you get back to feeling fantastic like the great people you are.

-Mel.

 

When Home Just Isn’t Home Anymore

So…you’ve lived apart from your family for a few months, even an entire school year. And now, you’re back to their house or your hometown for a little bit. You’re happy, but coming “home” has somehow become different.

I’ve already experienced this feeling before moving away to university, after having done some traveling without my family. But it wasn’t until I lived in residence in university and visited my home for the holidays that I noticed how out of place I felt at home.

When you first see your family and friends, it seems like everything is the same. Same house, same car, same dog, same city. But they’ve really changed. See, the funny thing is, other people aren’t static. They grow up, get new hobbies or jobs, new friends or partners, and even if you know about all of that before you reunite, you’ll still have to get used to how those things affect your loved one’s daily lives.

But, the hardest part of coming home is being faced with how you’ve changed. After all, you’ve been away and learned some valuable lessons on your own. From friendships to things you learned in university courses, you’re not the same person you left home as. I know I came back from my first semester of university with new friends, a realization of how hard university can be, and with more independence. I’d even become a bit more extroverted, which is no small feat for me.

So, is there anything you can do about coming home and facing change or being changed?

To be honest, you can’t do much but to accept the changes and adapt to your new life. You’ll never be able to change the paths of others in your life, so you’ll either have to accept them as they are or set them loose. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of a friend in your life. It might be tough, but you’ll survive.

As for personal change, you’ll have to assess whether it’s good or bad, and then embrace what will allow you to become the best version of yourself. Take some time to have a heart to heart with yourself, and it’ll help you grow as a person. I hope that what you discover allows you to reach your goals and contribute to the world around you.

Just remember, change is a healthy part of life. You won’t be able to avoid it, but you can change how you react to it. So, when you feel out of sorts going home the next school break, go out and embrace the weirdness of change!

-Mel.

Merry Christmas!

I know I’m not exactly posting on Christmas, but I’m taking the weekend to enjoy the time with my family. After all, I only get to see them about every four months when I’m in school!

I hope that your holidays have started off well and that you guys are taking the time to relax from work, school, or whatever things life has sent your way. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world, and hopefully, you’re spending the holidays with the most important people in your life.

I won’t be posting again until the New Year, so I also wanted to say an early Happy New Year as well. As well, just wanted to say sorry for not posting earlier in December, exams and the end of semester caught up to me so I didn’t have time to write.

Happy holidays everyone, take advantage of every free moment of them!

-Mel.

Lest We Forget

I had originally planned to post about my experience with Hal-con last weekend, however, I owe this great man for upholding my country’s freedom, and so it can wait.

The man above is my great grandpa, who fought in World War Two for the Canadian Navy doing supply runs in the North Atlantic. He is a hero, and one of my role models. Unfortunately, he passed away almost ten years ago, but he lives on in my memories.

Like many WW2 heroes, he was more than just a member of the Navy. He gave the best back massages, guaranteed to put my younger self to sleep, even though his hands were covered from calluses from years of hard work. He teased me about being shy to practice my French whenever I visited as well. His house was always a safe place, and you would leave stuffed with food, and hopefully a bit of lefsa. He and my great grandma were a strong couple, and I can remember them dancing together at one family gathering, looking so happy together.

So, every November 11th, I thank him for his service, and for the time I got to spend with him. His memory reminds me to live life in a way that embodies the positive qualities of life, from courage and perseverance, to love and giving back.

Lest we forget those that have fought for Canada and those who still fight.

-Mel.

What Motivates You

I couldn’t really pinpoint one thing, so here’s a list of things that motivate me to do well in school:

  1. My family
  2. My friends
  3. My dream job (to be a diplomat)
  4. To learn new and interesting things
  5. Coffee
  6. Having the chance to get scholarships for school
  7. The chance to go digging through old documents

What motivates you to do well in school? Leave a comment down below!

-Mel.

Day 28-Goals For The Next 30 Days

  1. Hike Tunnel mountain.
  2. Hike Sulpher mountain.
  3. Get in shape, via exercise and cooking better meals.
  4. Take more photos.
  5. Go canoeing/kayaking.
  6. Go biking to the Vermillion Lakes.
  7. Work on my summer writing project.
  8. Go outside in general (more).
  9. Read all the books!
  10. Visit my family at *least* once.

What are your goals for the next month? Leave them in the comments!

-Mel.

Day 25-Your Siblings

Luckily I only have the one sibling, a younger sister.

She’s four years younger, which is a big gap, but we still get along very well.

She’s finishing up her first year of high school right now with very little trouble. She’s in band, and she’s also pretty involved in Girl Guides.

But the thing I think my sister should be most proud of is her medals from her archery competitions. She’s won quite a few this year, and fingers crossed she does well for some of the future competitions she’s interested in.

My sister is also a giant nerd like me, except with love of K-pop and anime thrown in. We literally spent our time on the phone recently reading each other funny Tumblr posts…and watching Markiplier. She’s my go to for Comic Expo as well, and we’ve had fun there the last few years.

In any case, I love my little sis to bits, even if she changes my name in her phone to the one that doesn’t answer when I’m away at university.

Love ya Panda.

-Mel.

Day 5-Something You Miss

Well, this one is pretty easy.

I miss two things all the time, and they’re simple but complicated at the same time.

I miss the best moments of my life so far, and there are days were I would just like to live in them on infinite loop. It’s days like my graduation, to the day of bliss in Nicaragua, but I get really nostalgic about the good old days. Still, I know I can make great days presently, but when I’m having a bad day, I’ll miss days gone by.

The second thing I miss a lot is living with my family. And crazy as that sounds, a lot of my friends my age still live with their parents or are nearby. For me, though, I haven’t lived in either of my parent’s house for more than a week for a year. I miss living the day to day life with them always around to talk to, and sometimes when I’m away it feels like I miss so much. But, at the same time, I know moving out and away will help me in life, and I’ll have to sacrifice family time sometimes.

What do you guys miss? Leave it below!

-Mel.

Day 1-10 Things That Make You Happy

  1. Chilling out with my dog in the backyard.
  2. Watching random TV after work with my friends.
  3. The view from the top of the Banff Gondola, rain or shine.
  4. Seeing my extended family, especially hanging out with my cousins.
  5. The cool mountain breeze in Banff.
  6. Curling up in a blanket after a long day.
  7. The smell of coffee in the morning.
  8. Being able to cook and bake in my own kitchen.
  9. Cleaning with my music blasting.
  10. Hugs.

What makes you guys happy? Leave it down below!

-Mel.