Day 24: Something That Makes You Feel Better

There are a lot of things that make me feel better when I’m down, so I figured I’d share a bunch of them with you today.

So, here are some of the things I do to take care of myself on an off day:

  • Listen to music: I find listening to music helps me get out of my head, so I’ve made a few Spotify playlists that I listen to when I need a bit of a boost.
  • Eat something: Sometimes the reason why I’m in a bad mood is I haven’t eaten, so I always find it helpful to eat something. It doesn’t always have to be healthy food, since sometimes you just want to eat a bunch of pizza.
  • Taking a shower or bath: Taking a long soak or having a really long hot shower always helps me. It’s soothing, and the heat helps you relax and release tension.
  • Talking to friends/family: I’m lucky to have an awesome group of friends and family, who I can reach out to when life’s a bit rough.
  • Cleaning: As weird as it sounds, doing the dishes or cleaning can really help. It allows you to take out some frustration on the dirtiest dishes, but also makes your space a relaxing environment.
  • Watch your favourite movie or TV show: I like putting on shows or movies that I’ve seen a lot since they’re comforting, or choosing a sillier show like Bob’s Burgers or Brooklyn 99 to cheer me up.
  • Coloring: Yes, I’m an adult that likes colouring books. It’s really soothing to just concentrate on it, and you can get some pretty cool colouring books that are for particular shows or have swear words in them.
  • Playing games on my phone: I’ve recently added some games to my phone, which not only cure boredom, but also help me relax. I highly recommend Monument Valley, it’s got a soothing soundtrack and requires a lot of concentration.

What are some of the things that make you feel better on a bad day? Let me know in the comments!

-Mel.

Day 16: Something You Always Think “What if…” About

I think I keep gaining new what if questions monthly, but that could just be a mark of the stage of life I’m in.

However, one of the what if questions I come back to sometimes is what if I didn’t take a gap year after high school?

I know I would have never travelled to Nicaragua and moved to Banff had I not taken that gap year. I probably would’ve chosen a different university, and I would have had to choose it during my last year of high school. I would’ve missed out on so many life experiences that I cherish had I not taken a gap year.

I also know I wouldn’t have met a lot of people that are my close friends currently. And it wouldn’t just be the people I met during my gap year, I wouldn’t have met my close friends at university as well. I’m sure I would’ve met amazing people had I not taken a gap year as well, but I truly am grateful for the friends I made that year and shortly thereafter at university.

I think my gap year has become such a big what if moment in my life since I’ve changed a lot since I took it. I would’ve never pictured myself where I am today back in grade 12 when I decided to take a gap year. But I’m eternally grateful for that choice, and a few people who nudged me in that direction in the first place.

What are some of your what if moments? Leave them in the comments below!

-Mel.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to write a quick post since it’s Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend. I hope that all of you take advantage of the time off to relax and have some fun with your family and friends. As well, make sure to get your fill on all the best foods that Thanksgiving offers. I’m talking cranberries, pie, mashed potatoes, turkey buns, sweet potatoes…the whole nine yards.

For those of you that are unable to visit home for the holidays like me, try and make the best of the long weekend. If you need advice for surviving the weekend, I just wrote a piece about Thanksgiving away from home for my university’s newspaper, which you can find here.

I also hope all of you are enjoying the beginning of fall as well, and are taking advantage of the awesome seasonal activities. I know I’ve already restrained myself from buying a lot of mini pumpkins to decorate my dorm room…

If you guys have any cool things you’ve got planned for the fall or Thanksgiving, let me know about them below so I get some inspiration for what to do on my weekends!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone, and have a lovely weekend!

-Mel.

When Home Just Isn’t Home Anymore

So…you’ve lived apart from your family for a few months, even an entire school year. And now, you’re back to their house or your hometown for a little bit. You’re happy, but coming “home” has somehow become different.

I’ve already experienced this feeling before moving away to university, after having done some traveling without my family. But it wasn’t until I lived in residence in university and visited my home for the holidays that I noticed how out of place I felt at home.

When you first see your family and friends, it seems like everything is the same. Same house, same car, same dog, same city. But they’ve really changed. See, the funny thing is, other people aren’t static. They grow up, get new hobbies or jobs, new friends or partners, and even if you know about all of that before you reunite, you’ll still have to get used to how those things affect your loved one’s daily lives.

But, the hardest part of coming home is being faced with how you’ve changed. After all, you’ve been away and learned some valuable lessons on your own. From friendships to things you learned in university courses, you’re not the same person you left home as. I know I came back from my first semester of university with new friends, a realization of how hard university can be, and with more independence. I’d even become a bit more extroverted, which is no small feat for me.

So, is there anything you can do about coming home and facing change or being changed?

To be honest, you can’t do much but to accept the changes and adapt to your new life. You’ll never be able to change the paths of others in your life, so you’ll either have to accept them as they are or set them loose. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of a friend in your life. It might be tough, but you’ll survive.

As for personal change, you’ll have to assess whether it’s good or bad, and then embrace what will allow you to become the best version of yourself. Take some time to have a heart to heart with yourself, and it’ll help you grow as a person. I hope that what you discover allows you to reach your goals and contribute to the world around you.

Just remember, change is a healthy part of life. You won’t be able to avoid it, but you can change how you react to it. So, when you feel out of sorts going home the next school break, go out and embrace the weirdness of change!

-Mel.

What Motivates You

I couldn’t really pinpoint one thing, so here’s a list of things that motivate me to do well in school:

  1. My family
  2. My friends
  3. My dream job (to be a diplomat)
  4. To learn new and interesting things
  5. Coffee
  6. Having the chance to get scholarships for school
  7. The chance to go digging through old documents

What motivates you to do well in school? Leave a comment down below!

-Mel.

Day 21-Who Inspires You

I’ve never had one person that inspires me, but here are a few that do in my life:

  1. My mom: She’s hardworking, stands up for herself, is a feminist, and is always there if I need her. I don’t know how she does everything sometimes, but I’m glad she’s my Mama bear.
  2. My friend Miller: He’s from Peru, but whenever I talk to him he has such passion for life and what he does, that he inspires me to reach for my dreams. Not to mention he *may* have planted the idea of coming on exchange to Peru for a semester.
  3. The people I work with: So many of them have a massive spirit of adventure, which pushes me to do things that I never would have considered. Not to mention since most of them aren’t locals, hearing about how they see my backyard inspires me to see life in a different way.
  4. My favorite YouTubers: As weird as this seems, but seeing the hard work they do to have gotten where they are is inspiring. Plus some of their videos give me ideas of where to go and what to try out next.

Who inspires you guys? Leave it in the comments!

-Mel.