positivity

How To Get Over A Rough Patch

Sometimes life throws you a curveball that makes you stumble or falter in your plans. It’s never pleasant dealing with those curveballs, and sometimes you can feel stuck in a rut.

So, as someone who’s been through a few rough patches in the last few years, I thought I’d give some tips on how to cope and get out of them. Hope these help!

  1.  Listen to your favorite playlist for when you’re angry or upset. Sometimes the best reset for me is to get my emotions out through music. Even better, pound out an angry tune on the piano, that’s always cathartic.
  2. Make a list of the things and people that are good in your life. Sometimes it’s easy to lose track of what you already have when you’re in a tough place.
  3. Watch your favorite movies or TV shows. Personally, I love watching anything made by Laika or Buffy when I’m down to get my mind off things.
  4.  Write out your frustrations and worries or tell them to someone who’s close to you. Sometimes you just need to get all of that out in order not to feel like you’re the only one carrying the burden of your problems.
  5.  Go out with friends or family. Doing something fun with people that love and appreciate you will cheer you up and get your mind off all your worrying.
  6. Take a long walk, maybe to your favorite coffee or food place. I’ve always found taking a walk through the park or down by the river soothing, so maybe try that out!
  7. Invest some time in your hobbies. Dust off your camera, pick up an instrument, go have a long session at the gym. Do what makes you happy, and everything else will sort itself out.
  8. Think about your goals, and how you can go forward with them even with a few roadblocks on the path. Sometimes, the lessons you learn the hard way push us onto the path that is better for us in the long run.
  9. Pet your favorite animal. Nothing like a few dog or cat cuddles to brighten up your day while you’re going through a rough patch.
  10. Try something new. Sometimes you need to get outside your comfort zone in order to solve a problem. It could be as simple as trying a new activity, to something as big as moving to a different city.
  11. If all else fails in solving the problems life throws at you, give things time and don’t give up hope in your dreams. It may be hard to keep a positive attitude, but keeping it up will attract good things to you and leave the rough patches behind.

I hope that whatever struggles life has thrown at you right now, that these tips may help you find peace and happiness again.

If you guys have anything you do when you’re in a funk, leave your tip in a comment below!
-Mel.

 

Bliss

Almost a year ago, I was riding on the back of a pick-up truck towards Totogalpa, where I would stay with my host family and counterparts for the next five weeks. There wasn’t anything extraordinary about the day, just a lot of travel, and the big reveal of counterparts and host families later on in the day.

But then riding on the back of that truck, holding on for what seemed to be dear life going up and down the mountains of Nicaragua, I experienced a feeling that I’ve never encountered. It was like happiness because I was travelling to a new place to do volunteering, one of my favourite things. It was like freedom, riding on the back of the truck with the wind in my hair, with no idea where I was or where I was going. It was a stress-free moment, as the only things I needed right then were taken care of. And even though I was totally out of my element, I knew I needed to be there at that moment. It was bliss, it was peace, it was tranquility.

To this day, I don’t have a name for what I felt that day. And there probably is a word, but I don’t really want to know what it is. Instead, I want to savour that moment forever, and the feeling of being on the top of the world.

So, since then, I’ve strived to get to that feeling again, but in the right way.

By that, I mean living each day to the fullest I can and living each day with as positive a mindset as I can. I want to live life appreciating the small things, and knowing that as long as I have food, water, and somewhere safe to but my head at night, I’ll be fine. Everything else is extra, but welcome in my life. I want to take chances, to explore, to spend that extra minute talking to a special person in my life, because I believe this world needs more positivity brought into it.

I know I’ll have bad days too when, it will be a struggle to get out of bed, when I’ll want to punch someone. However, the most important is knowing that I have the things I need in life, and as much as the bad stuff will drag me down, I am stronger than it.

At the end of the day, I hope to have made myself happy by what I’ve accomplished. And hopefully, if I do enough good things for myself, my impact on the other people in my life will be positive as well. If not, at least, I can go to bed knowing that I have not gone out of my way to hurt others, and bring negativity to another life.

And that’s enough for me, because I know that’s all I need now.

So, Nicaragua, you taught me an important lesson in the place I least expected would change my life. Thank you, a million times over.

-Melissa